'So I want to say something about the asking of questions because I asked myself a brand-new question, not about life, although it turned into that… But I was reading the Torah portion this week and it was of course the same Torah portion that occurs each year at this time and I've read it I don't know how many times but I never ask myself the question. It's the part where Jacob wrestles with an angel, and as he wrestles with the angel when the dawn is about to break he says “I won't let you go until you bless me… until you bless me.” And the angel says to him “No longer will your name be Jacob but from now your name will be Israel because you have fought with human beings and with angels and survived.” Now I've read that story a lot of times but only this week did it occur to me that he doesn't bless him!… He doesn't say “May you have children, may you have wealth, may you be healthy, may you be happy,” and yet Jacob lets him go! So I knew as is inevitably the case for a good question there must be some answer that speaks to us, to our hearts, to our souls, that means something. Why does Jacob let the angel go?… And I realised that for Jacob there must have been a blessing in that, and there was and that there is for us. What the angel gave Jacob was the blessing of self-transformation. You don't have to be Jacob any more. You've struggled. And now you can change.
….It doesn’t mean that bits of Jacob won’t cling to you, they will throughout your life, but they are now subsumed into something greater…and he gave him in fact the most important blessing - the blessing from which all others flow - which is he gave him the blessing of transforming his soul into something better, something more beautiful… something closer to what he was meant to be.’
(Your Voice In My Head)